Often, we come across certain people in our life, with whom we feel like “this is one; he/she is really my friend”. It is due to the reason that their chemistry and bond exceptionally match with our mentality and there we feel sudden ease and comfort level with them.
BUT, it is not necessary that these WONDERFUL people are always good for us. It is similar to the notion that wine tastes very good, but not good for health. Cigarettes seem to be the stress reliever, but they yield cancer. Similarly, fast food tastes so yum, cheesy, and watery but it is the silent killer of our health.
If our bondage with someone is extremely perfect at MIND level, it does not mean THAT a particular person is also SPIRITUALLY good for us. This is the reason it has been said that “when you enter in college/university, chose your friends wisely. Otherwise, you would BECOME that a person who your friends are”.
Let me illustrate this philosophical debate in easy explanation. At work, there was XYZ person to whom I had great understanding and bonding. We used to do several things together and our FRIENDSHIP was visible to everyone. Nevertheless, I am a dominating and straightforward person and don’t mind to straighten out things with people. My XYZ friend used to enjoy the cheesy flavor of my tongue and used to provoke against my seniors. I was in non-aware state and I kept slipping in that charm for the sake of LOOKING GOOD among my peers. However, it
made things very difficult for me and I even received the warning.
Now that person is gone. Before his leaving, I used to think that “he is my friend and how would I survive without him at work”. But, it turned out that I am surviving pretty well. Things are not that negative as they have been projected by that person.
It does not mean that I am not going to talk to him anymore. Off course, I will but with people of the AWARE state. It is good for me that the person is already gone, but I have learned a lesson of my life. It gave me the realization that
WE MUST NOT INDULGE OURSELVES IN OTHER PEOPLE’S LIKES OR DISLIKES.
Because it poisons our life and our very close family members, relatives, friends, spouses or kids play this role efficiently. But, human often does it because he has inherited desire of
LOOKING GOOD (which Sierra has taught me). I became the victim of it too because I wanted to look good in front of my friend and it cost me the pretty deal. Nevertheless, it is never too late to get change and become AWARE. So, let’s just Cheers.
® Mindmasked 2016 © Sajal Khan