“Male supremacy” is a very common tier in society which people will never notice; but unfortunately it is witness in every house in the Indo-Pak culture. It runs so deep that unconsciously it has become a fashion into our lifestyle. The aim is to scrutinize the root of this belief that why males are superior in gender role to builds up the society.
“ADDRESSING THROUGH THE MAID”
Notice that there is always different addressing dome when spoken to a maid. Usually the female holder of the house or the wife will address her husband through the maid like; “Go call the ‘Sahib or malik’”, but as the male head of the family or husband, he will never say that “go call the ‘sahiba or malkan’”. The maid shall call the wife the “malkan” but the husband will never call her through as “malkan”. Similarly we would not allow our maid to sit in the front seat of our car, why? because it is our greatness that we are even taking her with us.
JUST LIKE THAT, wives are like mulazim to their husbands. See the note of addressing; somewhere in their minds they do not account women as equality to themselves. It sure is greatness that we let them sleep in our beds but they are not accountable to be called equal to us even while addressing.
“NAMELESS HUSBAND GODS”
In fact in some house commonly the wives still do not addressed their husband with the name, “because as in Muslim society; husband is majazi khuda. And that’s the reason we have EVEN assigned gender to “ALLAH MIYAN”, in instead of why don’t we get a “ALLAH BIWI” in our language?” or in the “Hindu society the husband is known as the “devta” so they called him “BITTO kay PAPA” instead of his name. It is only necessary that the WIFE should fast for husband age, next the WIFE will also be burn for the husband sins. So what is the husband doing anything for the wife’s age, “that means he’s wanting her to live less” what will he do after she die in the “janam” PARTY HARD? Because in the next one also he is suppose to meet her again.”
Our society is not any different than the time of “JAHALAT” of Makkah, where the first daughter was left alive so that she can breed. In reality this thought is still recorded somewhere in the beliefs that there is no other explanation to a woman’s life than breeding and nourishing children. She is looked up to be confined to the four walls which she will leave only when she is ready to be buried or cremated. And when she stands for her rights, the best tag line to keep a wife in her place is to say “I m allowed to have four marriage. I’ll go have a second wife if you cannot give me peace.”
Don’t these men know that polluting the name of the Prophet by saying “we are allowed to have four marriages” has different aspect to this principle?
It has its own four times strictness in the rights of the wives for these men. Don’t these men know that there were days assign to each wife for lunch every day? Don’t they know that if prophet brought two watermelons; he wouldn’t have given one to each wife, “what if one was sweeter than the other”? Instead he would have cut up both the melons in half and give each of both to them so that both wives would get “each of a sweeter and less sweet melon”. This is how much equality and strictness it is in the rights of four wives. Is any man ready to give this much time to let alone thoughts to four what, but one wife?
Is there any man present in INDO-PAK, who would stand in respect when his daughter enters the room? This is what our prophet was and this is how he taught women to be respected. Is there any man ready to stand and say he is rightful to be called an “ummati” of PROPHET MUHAMMAD (S.A.W)? Because the prophet said:
“The best among you men are those who are best to his wives, and I m the best to my wives.” (tum mai se behtreen shask wo hai jo apni biwiyon kay sath behtareen salook se paish ae hai, aur mai apni biwiyon kay sath behtareen hon)