Three Disadvantages of Social Networking:
Few days back I came to read an article on social networking and its impacts on human relationships. It was very eye-opening article and it made me to observe the trends of networking around me in the light of that writer’s findings. Naturally, few days back I got an opportunity to go one of the social event, where I done interesting experience of social networking phenomenon.
In this context, if I quickly count number of our networking ids, then I think everyone possess at least three types of social network.
The very quick examples are Facebook, twitter, linked in, Hotmail, yahoo, gmail, Skype, internet banking, ATM and I believe there will be plenty of others about which I have no single idea.
Sometimes, I feel that am living in the such high-powered electromagnetic energy of social-networking that it made severe impact on my personal and closer relationships.
It somehow detached me with those about whom I really care and cherish their love. But it also pushed me in unknown world of strangers like Alice in the Wonderland, where am compel to live for my survival.
Sometimes, it becomes obligatory to get involved in social networking, due to our job-type. In other cases, people themselves love to be in the wide social networking circle.
In this regard, they focus more on online friends instead of those street and neighborhood buddies, with whom they spent their entire childhood and made valuable memories. The problem is the craze of being ‘up to date’, which keeps us connected with thousands of people around us. Nevertheless the opportunity cost is negligence of our dear family and friends.
Another important factor which came under my consideration is that the trend of social networking through multiple types of forums has generated the culture of superficiality.
Usually, people shares those specific pictures, videos, and their personal commodities on networking sites, which make them unique and show their life as most interesting and thrilling. Consequently, it leads other people to conceive ‘their’ life style as very high and elite.
Socially, it generated the significant impact on society, in the form of wide inferiority complex. It actually causes the famous sociological phenomenon of ‘them’ and ‘Us’.
It is evident fact that no one is perfect in this world and everyone has his/her own kind of problems, which they try to hide through the curtain exquisite pictures and videos.
This culture of superficiality tirelessly makes people to promote their life as most privileged and luxurious one. However, it is another debate that, within, how empty they are.
The second important impact of social networking is on Love relationships. It is a ground reality and we cannot escape from it by calling it taboo.
The love relationships suffered the deep impacts. First of all, the reliability and authenticity has reduced to very large extent, which gave boom to “Hawaye Pyar” ( English translation: Virtual Love) . In fact, the teenage kids are big facilitators of Hawaye Pyar.
Whenever, I go out I mostly observe college students take benefit of this culture. According to my viewpoint, media is the biggest culprit of this phenomenon, and social-networking is second big promoter of these shaky relationships. The so-called sentences of “me app ko like karta hon” ( English translation: i like you) , or “kya app mujh se dosti karinge”( English translation: will you friendship with me?) can be largely seen on Facebook and twitter, which further get strength by easy access of cell-phones and sim-cards.
Now, let’s assume that some people got successful to get their “soul-mates” through this medium. Now, what happens is that they like to show their love talk on these social-networks, and when (by accident) they got breakup, the same sites become best way to throw garbage and mud on each other’s character.
Third, if both partners use these social-networking sites enthusiastically, then issue of password sharing emerge.
In addition, the inter-personal jealousies with each other’s friends also arise.
The Fourth impact is little matured one. Here, if someone (by mistake) get involve in serious relationship then the question of mutual trust arises.
It is opposite to first impact where partners share everything and later their sharing becomes disaster on networking sites. Here, there is total lack of confidence on each other, even if they are loyal and sincere ones. Each tries to take back step from the fear of propaganda and what I call “online-Badnami”.
I am not against of technology use; neither have I had any issue with social networking.
It is era of globalization, where everyone is compelled to be part of these trends, for survival and we may not escape from them at all. However, I believe that excessive use of everything has negative impacts, and being Pakistani it is our habit to follow each and every global trend without prior-thinking and research.
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