Expectations

There are certain people in your life, who are constant as an “x” in algebra. You can not leave them, you can not hide from them and you have to put with them no matter what we think. These so called people are called as family. It as well can also be a certain friend or maybe your extended family member.

Not everyone is blessed with family members who love, care, and be passionate about your well-being. They are mean, selfish, self-centered, jealous. No matter what you do, you are not able to appease them. They can be anyone such as your mother, father, sister, brother, and mostly sister-in-laws. On one hand, they are jealous and appalled of your success but they never left a chance to copy-paste your way of talking, eating, walking or your lifestyle. On the other hand, they never miss a chance to hurt, demoralize you and extract every drop of hope and bliss from you. They get happy when you are hurt, miserable and vulnerable. They even cherish your misery.

DOES IT HURT?

YES, A LOT. . .

CAN YOU DO ANY THING ABOUT IT?

NO, YOU CAN’T

Yes you heard me right, You can’t. The reason is that no matter what you do, they have decided to keep this thick wall of hatred and aloofness in between and they are not ready to demolish it at all.

So, the question of is what should we do actually?

First of all, you must do your self-evaluation and run the checking system. Most often the cause of your misery is you  yourself. May be this very situation has occurred due to your certain words, behavior or tone. If it did, it is not too late to change yourselves. You may start over any moment as long as you live. You may cut down our tone, correct the vocabulary and your behavior.

However, instead of taking high road there a time comes in our life when we realize that “OK, I was wrong and I did correct myself, but this person still get so many problem with me, what should I do”?

Here, STOP TAKING THE HIGH ROAD.

ITS TRUE WHEN YOU REALLY WANT TO MAKE DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE STOP TAKING IT.

The reason is that the concept of HIGH ROAD occurs when two people are in certain relationship or bound to each other. So if that relationship ends, there is no need to take any high road. Here you must be thinking that how can anyone break the relationship with parents, siblings, and in-laws?

Breaking relationship means that STOP THAT “RELATION” TO PUT ANY “IMPACT” OR “MISERY” on your life. In Urdu, I can simply translate it “Sar pe sawar karna chor dain”. When you STOP putting thought on that relationship, no matter whatever a person does, YOU WOULD NOT CARE ANYMORE.

It is their life, they chose to behave in certain way and if they are behaving it means they are burning in their own AGFLAP. If they are playing small dirty tricks to trap you, just let them. When they won’t get any reaction so far, they’ll eventually stop.

All you need to do it ACCEPT THEM AS THEY ARE. Their loss is that they LIVE IN AGFLAP AND CONTINUE TO LIVE IN IT AND UNABLE TO REACH THE CREATOR. ON THE OTHER HAND, YOU MY FRIEND GOT THE OPPORTUNITY TO HAVE THAT LIGHT.

In order to maintain that LIGHT, YOU NEED TO CUT THESE PEOPLE FROM VERY KEY DECISIONS OF YOUR LIFE. As an aware person, you are supposed to be POLITE AND NICE but you are not supposed to SHARE your STUFF with them NOT AT ALL. BIG NO NO and NO. You may not plan or see you future with them.

It took me a LIFE TIME to learn this precious lesson. All in my life I have been struggling to make people to LIKE me or to LOVE me. I suffered a large number of heart breaks and sadness. But Alhumdu Lil ALLAH, I realized that I DO NOT NEED THESE PEOPLE TO LIVE MY LIFE HAPPILY. THEY ARE NOT WORTH IT AND I AM NOT THAT PETTY ENOUGH THAT I WOULD NEED SOME HUMAN TO RELY ON.

Have a good day.

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